Success Secrets of Attraction Whatever Your Goal.
May 30, 2008
Success secrets of attraction can be yours today. When you take stock of what you have achieved in your life what do you experience in you. Have you got enough money, is your relationship just perfect, do you wake every day and get excited about the life you have created?
With debt rising, divorce on the increase, more people wanting to work from home to escape the rat race, the stats would suggest that many of us are unhappy with our lot. We’re constantly looking for more in a quest for happiness.
One of the top things people would ask for if they had a magic wand is more cash and it’s undeniable that cash can make our lives easier as it gives us freedom and security. Relationship success would be next on the list. Imagine having a relationship that’s just the way we want it. What we deem to be success is subjective and based on the lives we truly desire, more money is not always the answer.
As you can imagine with all the relationship coaching I do I must have a brilliant relationship and life? The truth is it took me a long time to find the person that was most suited to me. I have dated many lovely people but none that fitted what I knew would support the life I wanted. To find the woman of my dreams I had to practice what I preached and I am proof that it works.
My beautiful wife (Allison) and I pictured sharing a special day, one of many to come. I knew what I wanted and I knew when I had found someone extraordinary. If you understand with clarity what will meet your needs then you will have relationship success. If your relationships keep failing then there is a reason and it’s within you.
If you want success in any part of your life it takes work and dedication. If you want the world to come to you and just give you a life then you’re in for a rough ride. But hard work is not the only answer is about being smart about what you are working hard at. Not only is my relationship brilliant I have a job I love. I choose my hours work from home, no more rate race stuck in traffic. It’s creative, low stress and so rewarding for me to help other succeed in reaching their goals.
Every value that I hold dear is met with the life I have chosen and the people I have chosen to be in my life. You can do this too I’m no different to you. What shapes our lives is the decisions and actions we take. So make a good decision and join the others that have prospered from working with me in achieving what they desire most. Happiness, is what we all want most.
If you want to change your life then come and chat with me today. You have little to lose and everything to gain. I have the answers to your future. Actually you have the answer to your future, I just know how to get to them. So together we can create the future that will stop you looking for happiness in the wrong places and by asking great questions of you get to what is your true destiny.
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Reasons Why Relationships Fail
May 26, 2008
The main reasons why relationships fail is because people have a lack of understand of themselves. Relationship coach Steve Hedger reveals the secrets we all hold within ourselves and how to get them.
If you knew the person you were in a relationship with was lying about who they were, what would you do? What if you heard a story about two people that were in a relationship that were both lying about who they were, what would you think?
The problem most relationships face and why they fail is that people decide to be together on such little information and a belief that they know themselves and what is best for them. Understand who you are is the key to your life and relationship success.
So let us see if you understand you. We know that it is impossible for people to know everything about everything. Therefore, if that is true then maybe, if they think they understand themselves then there is a possibility they could be wrong.
Anyone that is experiencing a feeling of being lost in relationships, careers and just can’t make decisions or if they do stick to them, is defiantly in a place where they don’t know who they are. This can manifest itself in greater or lesser degrees in all or parts of a persons life and will generate feelings of being unhappy but they don‘t know why.
If someone does not understand themselves yet think they do then there is trouble on the horizon. Of course, we all think we know ourselves but the proof is to look around you right now and consider your life so far, is this the life you wanted? If it isn’t then it’s your lack of knowledge of yourself and what decisions would support you is what brought you to the very room you’re in right now!
Let’s look at life and relationships in a different way. We tend to trust others by qualifications such as a pilot or a doctor. Would you consider trusting someone with no qualifications to fly that plane or prescribe you those drugs? Of course, you wouldn’t, because you are putting your life in their hands. When you go into a relationship, you are putting you life and your emotions in the hands of someone unqualified to understand your needs.
Now imagine if you don‘t know specifically what your needs are, how can you communicate them and worse for you decide if this partner will fulfil your needs? You can’t it’s impossible and this is the problem. Without knowledge of who we are, we have to find out about ourselves and others by trial and error through experience and this can be a slow and painful process.
The one area of our lives that we get virtually no education on is relationships and self-discovery yet it is the one area that causes so much pain. Millions of people feel lost and without knowing, they are professing to be someone they are not and they don’t realise it. They can’t be blamed because it would be unfair to expect someone to know something they don’t know.
So what is the solution. We cannot control what others do, we can only control what we do. Once we are armed with how to know who we are and what we really want, only then can we use this knowledge to quickly discover if others will be a good fit in our lives and be able to help us create the lives we want. It’s this clarity of knowledge that we are after. So what decisions, goals, and actions will create the life we most desire and make us truly happy.
You are unique
Your goals are the key to giving you direction, without an understanding of you, your chosen goals are likely to sabotage your life. So you need to understand that your emotions are the drivers behind your goals, but what emotions do you need to create those goals. Understand just this the first step to creating your true destiny is critical.
The answers are with you right now what you need is a small amount of guidance to tap into the secret to you.
Steve Hedger Relationship coach and NLP practitioner holds the questions that will unlock the real you.
Come and chat to him now at: http://www.liveperson.com/steve-j-hedger
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How to Attract Men and Understanding Men with Dating & Love
May 25, 2008
Powerfully intuitive secrets revealed on how to attract men, understanding men and how they think about love, relationships and sex.
This fantastic best selling book “Dating Without Drama” is a must,
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Dating Without Drama
Author Paige Parker
WARNING: You May Be SABOTAGING
Your Own Love Life …Without Even Knowing It!
“The key to a successful love life isn’t being lucky enough to find the ‘perfect’ man. The answer to having the fulfilling relationship you’ve always wanted is actually within you. Trust me…this is good news! It means that you actually have a lot more control over the outcome of your dating life than you may have realized. Instead of trusting your fate to your love horoscope or wishing on a star, you can harness your own intelligence, strength and confidence and utilize those attributes to get the love you deserve.”
You know that girl who ALWAYS has the best luck with guys?
You know… The man magnet.
Even though she’s not necessarily the prettiest woman in the room, she’s the one who guys line up to talk to at parties. Men flock to her, buy her drinks, and ask her out on dates to nice restaurants where they insist on picking up the check.
It’s a rare occurrence for her to go without a date on a Saturday night but, when it happens, she’s certainly not stressing out or staring at her cell phone, willing it to ring.
When she gets into a relationship it is healthy and well-balanced. And if it’s not, well, she promptly breaks it off and moves on to a new – more worthy – man.
She’s never spent a night with her face in a tub of ice cream and a box of tissues on her lap, wondering why she can’t find a boyfriend. She always seems centered, confident, happy and fulfilled.
She Dates Without Drama.
The secret to that girl’s dating success isn’t LUCK - it’s strategy, and you can have it too.
This girl has the secret to understanding men and understanding how men think and now you can have it too.
Girls, I cannot recommend this book enough. If you follow these steps you will change the experience of dating so much that you will wonder what the fuss was all about, because now it’s you totally in control, just what you want.
Shocking Night Out Confession
May 24, 2008
I was getting so bored with what he considered to be a great night out so I took him to some bars where the women were. This one bar we walked into was packed and just full of girls. As we walked in I saw three girls looking straight at us.At the bar I told my mate that we had pulled. He seemed nervous and said but we’ve only just walked in. I said I’m going over to say hi. Which I did and after a five minute chat I waved for my friend to come over, sheepishly he did. The next 2 hours were a real laugh, we all drank and flirted. As the evening was coming to a close I noticed that the conversations were become more sexual and I thought nothing of it.
Then we made our way out of the bar and it was time to go home. When we got out side the bar one of the girls came over and kissed me and it was a deep passionate kiss that I was not expecting. So I was a bit shocked, but hey why not. Then she stepped back and her friend came over and did the same, I didn’t know what was happening. Then the third friend came over and did the same as I was kissing girl 3 I saw out of the corner the two friends kissing each other. Everything was racing within me. This was the sort of situation any man would dream of. It had never happened to me before and the drink made me not care what happened. My friend was so shocked and left me to it.
The girls took me down an small back street and lets just say the activity that followed was not your normal night out. I had never done anything like that before and have never done it again but what an experience.
What do you think about this confession?
Do you think whats happened is right or wrong?
Have your say in the Comments section below…
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Secret Lust for other men confession
May 22, 2008
Every time we go out I can’t stop looking at all the lovely looking men. Sometimes he notices but I deny it and we end up in an argument.I have received a letter from another ex and have hidden the letter so my boyfriend can’t find it. When I go out without him I tell him the evening was good fun but I don’t tell him that I flirted with some of the men and the other night I came home with a mans cell number.
I have never slept with anyone else whilst I’ve been with him, but I just love men. I know he would be devastated if he knew. I also know that if he did what I’m doing I would be horrified. I have also never told my boyfriend that he is the only person that I have been faithful to and he thinks I have only slept with 3 men when in fact it’s been nearer 33.
What do you think about this confession?
Do you think whats happened is right or wrong?
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Secret Confessions of a Girlfriend
May 22, 2008
On the drive home I was thinking about our relationship and was it really what I wanted. When I arrived back to my flat my flat mate was there with her friend they had been out drinking the night before. I have always liked this man but not really looked at him sexually. My friend had to go out shopping for a wedding that was coming up and so she left leaving me and him together.
He was in a borrowed dressing gown left by her ex, we sat and started chatting over a coffee, I just seemed to be drawn to him his strong forearms, his kind nature and warm smile, his voice was deep and calming and his eyes were so warm. I had not really noticed this before. I started flirting with this man and before long we were kissing. I lost all control and we ended up in bed together having sex only a few hours after sex with my boyfriend.It only happened once as I found out he had a girlfriend so neither of us told anyone. I have never shared this secret with anyone but have been feeling awful about it. I felt such a slut.
What do you think about this confession?
Do you think whats happened is right or wrong?
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How to Flirt with Guys & Girls - Flirting Signals of Attraction
May 17, 2008
How to flirt with guys & how to flirt with girls, This free book on the flirting signals of attraction is available to you now. To get this free book written by relationship and dating coach Steve Hedger all you have to do is enter your details in the boxes provided below.
This free book will give you the power to be able to read who is attracted to you without a word being spoken. You will learn the flirting signals of attraction and how to use these methods that show you, how to flirt with guys and how to flirt with girls. This free book will provide you with the 5 steps of flirting, flirting body language and how to read others, where to meet people, flirting whilst out with friends and much more.
Confidence and self-esteem play a big part in the flirting process and if your shy you will learn how to combat these fears and create a more confident you. Many times whilst you are out, people are sending you signals that they are interested in you, but without knowing what those signals are you are missing opportunities to meet new people and potentially create dates that could turn into exciting relationships.
Learn the flirting signals of attraction today! Find out how to flirt with girls and be successful, find out how to flirt with guys to get the right man for you.
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P.S. This book is also free to distribute to friends! Have fun and feedback you stories, I would love to hear them.
15 Signs of an Affair. Body Language Traits of Affairs
May 16, 2008
Signs of an affair, the behaviour and body language traits that could mean your partner is thinking of or is being unfaithful. The body and it’s actions do not lie, even if their convincing words do.
If you think you have picked up on signs of an affair, most of the time your probably right. As subconsciously you have noticed a behaviour pattern change. But before you scream “cheat!” lets find out what could be going on and why. Then what do you do about it? At the end of this post I have a great book thats worth considering “How to catch a cheating spouse”.
The first thing to do is to think about your relationship. Is your relationship a good one? If your relationship is going through a bad patch then your partner could be looking for ways to feel good. Attention from others could be what they’re after. Many are just happy with the attention but some take it that step too far and become seduced into actions they would otherwise not embark on.
Some even have affairs in relationships they are happy in, what they like is the challenge or the chase for a boost to the ego. Either way you need to know.
For signs of an affair, what you are looking for is a change of behaviour.
- If your partner is suddenly hiding their phone or it’s always on silent.
- If your partner is starting to pay more attention to how they look.
- A sudden interest in going to the gym.
- Extended periods away from home.
- More nights out with friends or work that means time away from home.
- Starting to act and behave younger, such as listening to pop or dance music.
- Maybe a changed the type of food or drinks that will remind them of their new partner.
- A loss of interest in sex with you.
- He or she has started buying you gifts to alleviate guilt.
- Unusual amounts of time on the internet.
- They may smell different. Smells transfer very quickly even if perfume has been avoided, you’ll notice a new smell.
- Making love feels different, suddenly your love making changes. This is because the last memory of this act was with someone who acted differently. This pattern will be stuck in their mind and this pattern will be played it out with you, without either of you knowing.
- More aggressive behaviour & a sudden loss of respect.
- Picking arguments out of nothing.
- Eye patterns are another sign but I will write about this in my next post as this is a big topic.
What you are looking for is a combination of these traits, not just one thing. In isolation these signs of an affair could just be innocent attempts on self-improvement or a different problem such as a health issue.
Start to collect information before you start to accuse or question them.
Affairs is most cases are a sign of discontentment in the relationship, generally they are not in love with this new person, they just like how they feel about themselves when they are with them. If they are bored with their relationship then a new secret sexual partner is very exciting. The individual may not plan the affair it’s just that they are not feeling good about themselves in the context of their current relationship and they start to give off signals that they are available to others without realising.
Want to Catch a Cheating Spouse?
It’s so critical to ensure your relationship is working and is not being taken for granted. If you spot any of these signs of an affair then try to find out what is going on fast before the person gets so fed up with the relationship that an affair seems like a good idea and the question of breaking from the relationship become a reality in their minds. At that point in the broken relationship the cost of an affair becomes less in their minds.
Whilst very few people think an affair is a something someone should embark on as it’s horrifically destructive, there are emotional reasons why people do it. Very often these actions are regretted and very often the regret is genuine, but that little consolation to the victim, and thus many relationship do not recover. Of course some do and their relationship becomes stronger but this is a very risky strategy to fix your relationship.
If you feel that any of the above describes you or your partner do something fast to change the relationship so that an affair never becomes a possibility.Or if you have had an affair or are the victim of one then you may need help with this, if so then you can contact Steve Hedger via the link provided below, for friendly non judgemental advice today.
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Relationship Problem Advice - Sort Problems in Relationships fast
May 15, 2008
Relationship problem advice, fast solutions to relationship problem by email or live one-on-one chat with relationship coach Steve hedger. Why suffer when help is on hand quickly. No more drama just non judgemental professional advice in the comfort of your own home.
Relationships and dating made easier advice is on hand right now. Why put up with the problems, drama and upset when you can get answers quickly online. Steve is a professional relationship coach with many years experience in helping couples with relationship problems and single people with dating dilemmas.
Contact Steve for advice now!
We can all run into relationship problems. You could be dating, single or in a serious relationship. Wherever you are, we know how difficult relationship problems can be. These problems can have a massive impact on your life and can consume your days and affect your life.
Message from Steve
“I see relationship and dating problems everyday professionally, and in the past I have experienced the same myself, so I know how you might be feeling. This drove me to start relationship coaching many years ago. Relationships can seem so complicated. One minute everything seems OK then out of the blue your world is turned upside down.
It needn’t be this way I am online to help you right now!”
Contact Steve for help now!
We know that sometimes you just cannot get your partner to see things from your point of view and it is so frustrating.
When you have realised you have a problem the next problem is how do I fix it? Many try on their own or try family or friends. Then you could find these different opinions confuse you even more. So then, you consider professional help.
Long waiting times or the possibility of costly sessions each week then becomes you next problem. Booking an hour with a professional is not always possible with work and children commitments. At DatingShoes.com we know how frustrating this is so we have provided another option for you.
There is another way to get professional help for your relationship problems today.
- Get advice fast now or within 24 hours.
- Live chat; discuss your problem live with Steve today! Or…
- Email - Your relationship problem to Steve and get an answer within 24 hours.
- No question to small. Sometimes you just need to ask a professional a quick question or get an opinion. You do not need or want weeks of counselling.
- Everything is 100% confidential.
How does it work?
- During a live chat session, you will get to explain your problem.
- If the question just needs some quick advice or guidance then that’s what Steve will provide.
- If the issue is more complex, either we can work out some quick things to help the immediate issue or we can put a plan together to help your problem. This could mean a combination of a few live session followed by email updates.
- What happens is up to you. You are 100% in control
- My goal is clear. It is to help you firstly feel more in control of your problem and then get a fast resolution as cost effectively as possible.
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Example: The price of visiting a councillor or coach today can range from $80 - $130 an hour
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That’s a potential saving of over $100 dollars just on one session.
- You are in total charge of the length of the live one-on-one session.
- First 5 minutes are free so you can pose your question or problem.
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Ask Steve a question today get quick answers to your relationship problems. Honest professional non-judgemental guidance is just a click away.
What sort of relationship problems can Steve help me with?
All relationship questions
- Love
- Sex
- Marriage
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- Affairs
- Break ups
- Relationship rescue
- Dating dilemmas
- Boyfriend, girlfriend problems
- Relationship boredom
- Considering splitting up
- Communication break down
- Confidence issues
- Can’t get a partner
Steve Has worked on all these issues to extreme cases such as how rape and childhood abuse has affected, relationships today, and what could be done to make the relationship road smoother.
What is True Love & What is a Soul Mate?
May 11, 2008
What is true love why do we fall in love and what is a soul mate? Steve Hedger relationship coach explains what true love is? This is the big question everyone wants to know the answer to, everyone dreams of a soul mate.
True love is not a tangible thing; you cannot see it and you cannot buy it. So what is true love exists only in our minds as a combination of emotions that are specific to an individual, this is why we don‘t fall in love with same things or people. These emotions make us feel euphoric. We have feelings of love when we first meet someone we like. This is not true love and it can make us act in a way that disrepects us. The more experienced of us know this and put those feelings a side as we look for longer term proof that our new partner does love us. Over time we let that person into our lives, the more great emotions we get the more attached we get to that person, so we feel comfortable in professing our love for them.
- What is really happening? What does this tell us about love and our question; what is true love? This is critical to understand. Once you understand this then your relationships will start to become a little clearer.
“Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.” - Mark Twain
True love is a combination of emotions that you feel when you are with someone special to you. This person helps you to create the emotions that make you feel wonderful about you through their words and actions. The result is you will attach those great feelings within you to your partner, and this creates a desire within you for that person to be in your life more and more.
Over time, if you consistently feel great about you when you are with your partner these emotions that create attachments become stronger as they become proof that this person really does want you to feel great about yourself. It is this desire in someone else to help you feel great about you and your life is what makes you fall in love with him or her.
If that person then decides to dedicate their life to help you feel great about yourself, then the feelings we call ‘love’ become even stronger. Combine that with the proof over many years that what they have promised is true, then you know you have a person that does truly love you, and this is what people call a soul mate.
When you fall in love with someone, it is because you are falling in love with how you feel about you when you are with this person.
If you want your relationship to last then feed it. Good emotions are the food of love, and bad emotions are the poison. Give your partner a reason to fall in love with you all over again, help them create emotions in them that make them feel great about themselves and a life of love, desire, passion, and security is yours.
Get passionate about your relationship today before it is too late or before someone else decides to help your partner feel great about themselves again, whilst you have decided that the volume effort you put in when you first met was enough to keep your love alive forever…
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