Lack of trust - why would you do that?

Many couples at all kinds of stages of their relationships come through my doors with the same problem, a lack of trust.

They suspect their partners of all sorts of crimes against their relationships. Admittedly a few have good reason, but for the most the thoughts that enter the mind of the accuser has little grounds.

My though is always why? What is it that drives these individuals with great relationships to conclude that their relationship is a lie.

What you will notice is that what people focus on is what they get. I don’t mean that if you think your partner is having an affair then you will make it happen (all though if you accuse someone enough when they are innocent who knows what will happen). What I mean is those that don’t trust for whatever reason will find something that equals their partner cannot be trusted. They look for more facts (which actually aren’t) and guess what, they find them and the destructive cycle becomes worse.

These so called facts are made up the individuals mind and can cause havoc with any relationship.

In my experience two common threads have come from those that cannot trust. Either, they are the ones that cannot be trusted because what they fear is that their partner will be thinking and doing what they are. Or a past experience has created a fear (almost phobic) from being betrayed in the past.

Either way these need to be addressed as the accuser is creating what they fear most, an unhappy relationship where the accused could decide to leave because more and more pain has been brought into the relationship.

I don’t know about you, but if ever I’m wrongly accused of anything it leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Fortunately if the relationship is a valued one I am able to discover what has driven the behaviour, but many aren’t.

The ideal you are looking for is to let your partner go and do within reason whatever they need to do. Firstly they don’t belong to you, they are not a possession. If they are truly the right person for you they will come back because they want to and not because you have put emotional pressure on them to do so. If they do stray as many fear then what have you actually lost?

A partner that is a not worthy of your trust and who wants that? When you value yourself then is will be the key to trusting someone. When you discover that your partner or anyone is lucky to have you then the fears of loosing someone will deminish.

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How To Get A Woman To Orgasm Real Fast - 3 Explosive Tips You Can’t Afford To Miss

Some guys feel the length of the sexual session matters which is wrong. It’s not the length but the quality of the session which counts and this is what makes a woman orgasm. It’s been said that only one fourth of women out there tend to achieve an orgasm regularly during intercourse. So what does this tell you? Well this means that several men out there do not know the true art of making a woman orgasm therefore it is extremely important to know everything on this subject. Read on to discover some of the most mind blowing ways on how to make a woman orgasm fast and achieve mind blowing results within no time……

Make sure the level of excitement is up-

Unless she is excited enough she would never orgasm. You see the best possible way to really find out whether she is excited enough or not is to see how wet she is. If she is not wet at all it means she is not aroused yet, under this situation you must spend a lot of time on foreplay to really turn her on.

Communicate with her-

Communication is the key to getting a woman to orgasm. You see with physical stimulation she needs mental and emotional stimulation as well and talking to her while doing it is the best possible way to stimulate the right emotions in her mind. Tell her how much you love her and how much you love being around her and making love to her.

Ask her what she likes-

Now this is the most important aspect of getting a woman to orgasm. Often men never seem to ask their partners regarding what they like and dislike and often do what is disliked by women. It’s rather better to ask her than to shoot in the dark. Ask her what she enjoys and do exactly that on a constant basis.

What you don’t know yet-

Ever tried to wonder what’s in a woman’s mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Do you know there are some secrets women don’t want men to know but men absolutely must know these secrets in order to succeed with women? Read on to discover some of the most “Shocking Secrets” women don’t want men to know- 9 Most Shocking Secrets Women don’t want men to know

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Boyfriend problems why does he need porn?

I know my boyfriend uses porn, he hides it the house, but as I’m the one cleaning the house he must know I will come across them. We have never talked about it and to be honest I’m not sure how I feel. The thought of him looking at these beautiful women in a sexual way does not make me feel good, but I also know that boys do this.

Am I not good enough for him? Our sex life is good why does he feel the need to do this? I have thought about telling him I know, but things are good between us so I don’t want to cause an argument. Does he secretly want someone prettier than me? Is he always thinking about other women? Can I trust him when I’m not around? Please help this is making me feel insecure.

What do you think about this secret?
Do you think whats happened is right or wrong?
Have your say in the Comments section below…Or maybe you have a secret of your own.

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Serious relationships at crisis point

We all start our relationships with the best of intentions and without realising little things start to go wrong. 

Before you know it, the little things have now turned into big problems and no matter what you do, you just can’t seem to make this relationship work.

Whatever your problem I will help you to make the right changes to ensure your life is just the way that you want it.

• Maybe you’re at crisis point and splitting up seems the only solution.
• You are just bored with your relationship and you can’t see a future.
• You are in a relationship that’s ok but you know it could be better.
• You suspect you partner is having an affair.
• You have considered and affair.
• You are not convinced that you partner loves you.
• You are just unhappy, but you don’t know why.
• You feel taken for granted.
• The arguements just won’t stop and they go round in circles.
• You feel trapped or controled
• Your in an abusive relationship.
• You know your past is affecting your current relationship.
• Your sex life is not the way that you want it.
• Money issues is driving a wedge between you.
• People outside of the relationship are causing problems.
• I just don’t understand her, whatever I do it just seems to be wrong

These are just a few of the many relationship issues we can experience. Whatever your dilemma it does not have to be this way. By making different decisions you can take control of what happens in your relationship.

I can help you understand how relationships and the opposite sex works. How to get control of what you want and quickly and understand what needs to happen for you to be OK. Then create a plan to change the relationship so it works for both of you.

Relationship coaching is simple fast and effective and available to you right now.

Don’t waste anymore time going round in circles with the same old issues. Get the right solution by making the right decisions today. The first decision is to get started with coaching and make those changes right now click here.

Dating doesn’t have to be this way

The world of dating can throw up emotions, problems, insecurities, fears in fact this is one of the most emotional arenas that we can enter.

Meeting someone new can be an emotionally risky business. Walking blindly into dating as many of us do, with the dream of meeting that special one has the potential for disaster.

Whatever your problem I will help you increase your dating success whilst removing the potential for emotional disaster.

• Maybe you just can’t get a date.
• You keep getting dates but they keep going wrong.
• Your dating, but not sure if they are right for you.
• He wants to sleep with you but your not ready, but you don’t want to loose him.
• You’re dating and something feels wrong, but you can’t workout what it is.
• He hasn’t called, what should I do?
• You really like this girl, but are scared to ask her out.
• You find trusting difficult.
• You just don’t know who will be right for you?
• You have just come out of a long term relationship and your scared to date again.

These are just some of the many dating dilemmas we experience. Whatever your dilemma it does not have to be this way. By making different decisions you can take control of what happens in your dating life.

I can help you understand how dating and the opposite sex works. How to get control of what you want and quickly and decide who is right for you, so you can quickly remove the ones that are not.

Dating coaching is simple fast and effective and available to you right now.

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Getting started with online coaching

There is two ways of receiving online coaching with Stephen Hedger Relationship & Dating coach.

• Live Chat This is where you chat with Stephen online and you get to explain your problem and receive guidance and tools to achieve your chosen goal. Your first chat is 100% free.
  
• Email Coaching is the second route to success. This is where by email you pose your problem and you receive a comprehensive answer.
  
• Most of my clients use a combination of both. Usually the live chat quickly establishes the problem. Stephen puts together an action plan and from there we have the occasional catch up live to see progress or a quick answer is required. Then we move to coaching via email.
  
• How you want to work is totally up to you.
  
• The first session is totally free. Come on line and have a 20 minute free chat to see if coaching is for you. No obligation to continue coaching so it’s 100% risk free.
  
• If you find I am not online you can leave me an email and we can arrange a time to suit you to chat.

How much do I charge?

• As I said the first session is 100% free and you can discover what coaching can offer you.
  
• Email: Your account will be credited with 5 coaching emails for only £19.40/email. The emails are purchased in blocks of 5. You will get 600 - 900 words per email comprehensively answering your specific problem. You can use these 5 email credits at anytime, either all straight away or over a year.
   
• Online Chat: Live chat with Steve is charged by the minute. $1.79 (US) or approx £0.90 (UK) You can choose your budget for each chat so you are in total control of the costs.
  
  
• Getting started: Please complete the form below and give me an outline of your problem and the best times for your free chat, please remember to include your time zone. I will not ask you to pay for coaching until you are happy to proceed. Once I recieve your details I will send you the link for your free chat.
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Relationship Problems - How to Stay Together

Relationship Problems -  How to Stay Together is the goal of relationship coach dating expert Steve Hedger. 

Couples who are in successful long term relationships have been on a rollercoaster journey of trial and error. But they now experience peace with each other because they have learnt how to see the world through their partners eyes as well as their own.

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“I wish he understood me like
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“She’s makes no sense
I’ll never understand her”

Lack of communication  is one of the main reasons people split up. By making an assumption about your partners behaviour or actions from the perspective of your gender is likely to result in you making the wrong assumption. It is then very likely that you will start sabotaging yourself and your relationship without realising. The 50% divorce rate proves this, we don’t feel good around our partners based on our perception. We then see life without them as the answer. Relationship coaching will help you decide what is right for you,  no more dilemmas.

“Our arguments just go round in circles
and just gets worse”

Relationship coaching with Steve will help you bridge the gap between you and your partner by helping you understanding what drives them to behave and communicate they way they do. This gives you the power to help your partner feel more like a man and will empower them to help you feel more like a woman. This also works in reverse.

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25 year affair dilemma - loving a married man

I am in my 60s and for the past 25 years I have been having been loving a married man. This affair started years after my husband died and I have never really got over it. I vowed to never marry again because my husband was an amazing man and no man could ever replace him as my husband.

I then met this man at a conference and he swept me off my feet and in many ways he did reminded me of my Clive. But I told him that I was not interested in a relationship. He said no problem and we kept in touch as friends. I became very close to this man and as time went on he told me about his wife, how she was very unaffectionate. He was just so miserable in his marriage. He also told me that the romantic side of their life was dead.

So he came to stay for a few days and has now been doing that for the last 25 years. I don’t agree with affairs with married men but somehow this did not feel like an affair. Initially he wanted to leave her to be with me and I always said no. After five years of this he stopped asking but he still came to see me. None of my family know, I expect they would be horrified.

I am used to this life and am not sure if a relationship would now work for me but as I get older I just miss having someone to talk to at night, but I don’t want to ruin these little rays of light that happen when this man appears at my door.

What do you think about this secret?
Do you think whats happened is right or wrong?
Have your say in the Comments section below…

Or maybe you have a secret of your own.
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