Why is my relationship not working?

 Relationship problems - how to stay together?  Many couples find that after the dating stage, their relationships start to fall flat and arguments become more frequent. Sex goes on the decline, he’s stopped making the first move and quite frankly you don’t care because sex last thing you want.

        Over time the relationship becomes more distant and you don’t talk like you used too. You have stopped going out together because when you do, you’re not sure what to talk about and the only thing that comes to mind is your problems or you focus you evening talking about the kids.

        What you had in common when you started out seems to have been lost and now you are two people existing in a box we call a home.

        Is this what you really want? Are you secretly looking around to see who else could excite your life? Maybe you are secretly thinking about someone else. You’re not sure what to do, but you do know you need more, you’re not happy! Something needs to change.

        The effort you both put into the relationship when you first met has probably stopped, this is what needs to change. You made time for each other then and without that constant effort your relationship will suffer. It’s like anything else in your life it needs attention, without that effort it will die.

The 3 top things to think about if you are at this stage.

        1. Make plans to doing things together that are fun for both of you, just like you did when you were dating.

        Why? Because relationships are built on memories, if all you have is bad ones you will resent your partner and your relationship is likely to be very rocky as the future together seems gloomy. The memories you created when you were dating turned your relationship from casual to serious because you felt great about you and the relationship, make that happen again.

        2. Start making your relationship the most important part of your life. Find out more about your partner today and then give them continuously what they need. Write a shopping list of pleasure for your partner and encourage them to do the same for you, everything from evenings out to sex, from favourite food to holidays, and then make it happen every day, no matter how small every giving gesture is a plus.

        Why? Because when you do this they will attach those great feelings to you, this will help them to feel more attractive and important to you, this will help them do the same for you. These actions will change the tone of the relationship to be more positive and giving.

        3. Give your partner security, help them to understand that every action you take is for the good of the relationship.

        Why? Because this helps your partner know that you are here to stay and the relationship is more important than anything.

The bottom line is make your relationship a priority and it will look after you.

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Why men withdraw and shut down, And What To Do About It

Why men withdraw and shut down? This is a dilemma for tons of women. A lot of women do this one thing that enables that to happen…

And it leaves them feeling awful…

        I wonder if you do it too?

        I’m talking about women who hide their true feelings from a man and fear sharing their desire for a closer relationship and for love.

        Ever felt this way?

        It’s happens when you won’t communicate directly with a man about your feelings because you think you’ll “scare him away”.

        Unfortunately, you’re right… it could scare him away.

Why men withdraw and shut down

        The way you talk to a man about a relationship turns out to be THE BIGGEST MISTAKE ANY WOMAN CAN MAKE WITH A MAN.

        I’ll come back to this giant mistake in just a quick second…

        First, I’d like to talk about what I’ve seen in the dating world as a guy and share a FASCINATING story with you.

        I’ve had women communicate their feelings with me in all sorts of different ways from joy to anger to frustration, and I know what each one does to a man.

        (and in a larger context, what communicating this way does to any person in general - man or woman)

        There’s a pattern to the dating experiences that I’d like to share.

THE STORY GOES SOMETHING LIKE THIS…

        (let’s pretend I’m the man in this story and you’re the woman)

        You and I meet. We both like each other. (lucky me!)

        Feelings develop for us both on several levels. (physically, emotionally, socially)

You try to be “patient” and not express too many feelings and what you want to play it cool.

We have a great “connection”, but we never talk about what we want in our future around dating, a relationship or marriage.

Time goes by and things are great for us.

Eventually, you begin to see that you’re not getting what you want from me in the relationship.

You want more, but you’re scared of talking to me about it because you don’t know where I’m at.

You’re scared because I’ve talked to you about all the bad experiences I’ve had with women in the past.

And sometimes I even make negative remarks about women and their emotions.

You don’t want to ruin the good things we have going and rock the boat, but in the back of your mind you know that you’ll want to deal with the negative emotions that are slowly but surely building in your mind.

Then as I start to see us growing closer, I begin to use my past issues to tell you that I’m not looking for much more than what we have right now.

So you don’t say anything to me directly to communicate what’s going on for you and your feelings.

And of course, being a normal guy, I don’t say anything either. (Of course, I’m a man!)

You become frustrated and confused that I’m not acting how I used to act.

Things begin to change with the way I treat you.

I don’t pay as much attention to you anymore.

I don’t surprise you or bring you flowers anymore.

I’m tired everyday after work and just want to watch tv when I get home.

I call you less frequently.

I don’t initiate sex as much anymore.

You even consider that I could be seeing someone else.

And after a few months - I’ve become distant.

So what happens next?

You decide you’re not happy with where things are and it’s time to have a talk about where we’re at.

But you’re SCARED of expressing your feelings about what you want, so you let things build up inside you until you begin to let your frustrations with me show.

And to wrap the story up…

You make THE BIGGEST MISTAKE YOU CAN MAKE WITH A MAN…

You start a conversation about the relationship and then you “let me have it”!

(you get upset and lose your cool with me)

All your desires, fears, frustrations and dreams that you’ve been holding inside away from me all pour out in one big emotional explosion…

This “Big Mistake” can take the form of arguing and yelling, but not exclusively and answers the question why men withdraw and shut down

Sometimes it’s just extreme intensity, perhaps tears.

It might include:

- Complaining about the current state of the relationship
  - Talking about the things he does wrong with you
  - Showing your frustrations about what you feel is missing
  - Becoming upset that he doesn’t feel how you’d like him to feel
  - Bringing up past issues, arguments or disappointments

But it always creates a lot of emotional tension and “drama”. Especially in the guys mind.

This is THE LAST THING you want to do with a man if you want to get some positive result with him.

That tension that’s created stays with him, and he NEVER forgets it.

In his mind, he now thinks of you as “hysterical” and full of issues. His mind defines you by what he saw in your behavior, and it scares him.

Yep, I know it’s not fair, but it’s the man’s weird and twisted reality…

I’ve heard hundreds, maybe thousands, of men talk about this exact perception of a woman and how they fear being with a woman who they think will make this giant mistake.

Yeah, I know… it’s inmature, selfish and not fair of the man, but it’s the reality of the situation that lots of women end up in with men.

So how do you avoid this….? I’ll tell you how in THREE EASY STEPS.

Step 1) You Need To Understand What’s Going On Inside The Mind Of Your Man…

Let me tell it to you straight, as a man…

Women secretly believe that their connection with a man will “naturally” turn into something deeper without any communication taking place.

Kind of like it’s the unspoken truth about what’s going on.

Honestly… this isn’t how it works for us men.

If you’re “assuming” you have a relationship, and that he feels like you do, you’re wrong.

Men don’t assume that a connection, being together, spending quality time and all the rest means they’re in a committed relationship.

Some men do, but not most.

For a man to know he’s in a committed relationship, and understand the things YOU want in that relationship, YOU have to communicate with him in CLEAR AND DIRECT terms.

Yeah, that’s right… You have to put yourself out there and be vulnerable.

Scary!

But I hear lots of women think that other women are just lucky to have found such a great guy.

And while there are some men who are more equipped and ready for a healthy situation with a woman, it’s NOT luck that women in great relationships have found a way to communicate with their guy.

That’s right, they’ve taken time to find the right information and to learn to integrate a certain way of communicating into their thinking and behavior.

It’s not easy, but there’s help.

Step 2) You Need To Understand What Causes You To Make “The Big Mistake”

EVERYONE wants to have THEIR needs met first. It’s basic human nature.

But being able to delay your gratification is an AMAZING thing to develop in your life. (in every part of your life!)

Most people (men and women) want to talk, talk, talk about what THEY think and what THEY want.

The root of this problem basically boils down to needs that are unmet.

So making “The Big Mistake” is really all about being driven by your unmet needs and desires and solely focusing on what YOU want the relationship to be, without honestly and critically considering the man’s perspective, his emotional state, his commuication skills and where he’s coming from at the same time.

When you do this with a man, you are subconsciously telling him that you’re more interested in your feelings and what YOU want than you are in his feelings and what he wants.

And men can read and pick up on women who do this instantly.

I see a form of this “Big Mistake” communication all the time in business by the way.

Some business professionals are the worst at this self-absorbed “need” oriented communication.

Like when someone calls me who wants to get something from me or sell me something and they’re not very experienced or polished at it.

The first thing I pick up on is their selfish agenda… and it instantly puts me on the defensive.

But if they’ve done their “homework” on me and what I’m looking for, and not what THEY WANT from me, when they talk it changes the whole situation the second they show me they’ve thought about what I want.

It’s very simple but extremely powerful.

So let’s take this concept directly back to communicating with men.

It might sound cliche’, but you’ve got to learn to listen and understand where’s he’s at and where’s he’s coming from.

This cliche’ is a around for a reason.

It works.

Patience, empathy and understanding are the first steps towards creating the relationship you dream about.

But you’ve got to be careful to not become the woman who gives him EVERYTHING and gets walked on.

Use your common sense and intuition to safeguard yourself - I know that your female perceptive abilities aren’t used nearly enough, so put these strong tools to good use.
 

Step 3) How To Avoid Making The Big Mistake

Let me give you a vital piece of information when dealing with men…

Men are CLUELESS when it comes to identifying the things that are “obvious” to women in dating and relationships.

I would know. It’s taken me ten years to begin to understand these things for myself - and I spend a LOT of time thinking about it.

Sorry though, I’m “spoken for”… (Oh Please, get over yourself Christian!!)

Ok, enough self-indulgent humor, back to you.

So we know men are AWFUL at initiating and participating in conversations about deep emotions and relationships.

Sorry to break the bad news, but it’s almost always up to you to make this communication happen.

It’s important to remember to approach the entire conversation from the perspective of talking about what you want AND what he wants.

If you can make a guy feel like you put his feelings and needs a priority in this conversation, and always consider what he wants, I promise he will LOVE YOU for it!

There’s no rule that says you can’t consider another persons opinions and feelings first in order to get what you want.

In fact, a key goal in negotiating is to let the other person talk first.

When you get to listen first, you ALWAYS have the advantage. You know exactly what the other person wants… and knowledge is influence and power.

I’m not saying you need to take on hard-core negotiating here with a man, but some of the same rules and principles about people and psychology apply.

When you talk to a man from a positive place of listening first, he will be 10,000 times more receptive to what you have to say and what you want once you bring it up than if you approach him from a place of feeling hurt, communicate need and projecting fear and anxiety.

Try this instead.

Ask a positive question or give a positive statement such as, “Honey, I was thinking today that I was happy to be with you.”

It might sound submissive, corny or difficult to say to someone you’re having a tough time with, but think about it…

If you’re going through all the trouble to worry so much about the future with this person, this is already what you’re thinking.

You might want to check out what could be the world’s best collection of ideas, strategies, insights and research on the subject of how to avoid the Big Mistakes, and other big mistakes in my ebook, “Catch Him And Keep Him”.

It’s full off specific ways to communicate with a man that will instantly amplify the attraction he feels for you and help move things quickly and smoothly from “casual” to “committed” in no time flat.

I’ve spent the better part of the last year making sure my ebook will give you REAL WORLD ANSWERS and solutions to the things you’re dealing with when it comes to men.

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Your Friend,

Christian Carter

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Dating Tips for Men: Getting Your Groove Back After a Breakup

By David DeAngelo

>>> THIS WEEK’S QUESTION

OK, before you read the email that’s featured in this question, I have to WARN YOU.

This guy obviously likes my materials, and he shamelessly promotes my Advanced Dating Techniques Program about a bazillion times.

I actually debated about whether or not to use this email, because I didn’t want it to just come across as cheezy… but the reality is that this email contains some killer insights, and I want to make some comments and use it to point out some VERY important lessons.

So I’m going to leave in the over-selling of my Advanced Series, and you enjoy this newsletter…

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David, I recently ordered & received the Advanced Series.Wow, this is what I have been looking for.        First of all… THANK YOU. I think you have taken a whole bunch of complex processes and teachings and combined them into some very useful material that is digestible and sets a path to gaining some real skill.I have been down since an ex-girlfriend thrashed my heart three years ago.I mean I had my ass handed to me, and I have been in a serious rut with Women.

        I just turned 40 and that hit hard. I was feeling sorry for myself and thinking I was never going to get laid again. I have been joking with my buddies for a while about being in need of an operation to have the needy teddy bear inside of me surgically removed. I had been saying. “I need an operation, I am a terminal nice guy”. I have now re-framed that and recognize that I am implementing my “wuss-cure”.

        By Thursday I completed all of the CDs of the Advanced Series. I have taken every opportunity to go through the material when driving. Coming into this past Friday night I began my second run.I am lucky that I have already been building my Mastermind Group, unfortunately that has not been enough because I have not been getting it. I have been failing and at the same time watching my buddies score left and right. I got to the point where I was meeting women but doing stupid clingy stuff to repel them. You know, calling to soon, showing too much interest and worst of all being the polite, nice to girls, no conflict boy my mamma raised me to be.

        Friday night I went out with one of my boys who is a Jedi Master. We started the night at a pub and discussed strategy. Yes, I made it clear I was seeking advice and wanted to learn. We reviewed a recent failure where a girl I wanted and had a brief cuddling experience with ended up wanting him instead.

        She started calling him; he had just been over to her house… I was not hung up on the girl, I was focused on the idea that it was not about the one, it was about the skill. I knew it was not my friend’s intention to win this girl; she was simply attracted to him and not to me. So anyway, we debriefed on the situation and it was all-good. We then set out on the hunt.

        I was pumped with the idea that this is my reality and she (whoever she was, was a guest). Well, it worked. We stopped at a new pub; my friend went to the bar and ordered a couple of beers. When I walked up to the bar he was waiting for our beers and strategically wedged between a group of girls.

        I asked him… hey, what did you order for me? A cute little 23 year old next to him looked at me and said “oh, he ordered you a Zima…” Hey, this is Seattle and Men drink Beer. It was on; I played, had fun and could have cared less about the outcome. I have not had any real action for a long time. My game was on; she drove me home and did not leave until after sun was up. I got very little sleep.

        As she was leaving I casually said “hey, write down your email address and phone number so I know where to reach you”. The closest thing I had to write on was a coaster with another girls name and number on it; I turned it over and had her write on the back. Because I had been a good student, I had been spanking her whenever she did something good.

        She wrote: name, email, home number and in big bold letters at the bottom “NO SPANKING”.
Game on.

Thanks,
~L. — Seattle
>>>MY COMMENTS:

Very nice.

        I’d like to comment on a few of the things you’ve said here, and point out some very important points that you’ve brought up.

        First, you said that you found yourself in a situation where you had just broken up with a long-term girlfriend, and you’d just turned 40. You were feeling sorry for yourself and feeling like you might wind up never succeeding with women again.

        I’m not 40, but I can certainly identify with the situation you were in.

        In the past, whenever I would break up with a girlfriend, I ALWAYS felt a lonely, insecure, NEEDY feeling in the pit of my stomach.

        Nature has cursed many of us guys with an instant and automatic DESPERATION mechanism that kicks in the moment a woman leaves us… lol.

        It really does suck. I can remember it all too well, by the way. Thanks for reminding me!

        But really, I think that most of the men walking around on this planet knows that feeling of wanting to have the Wuss inside surgically removed at that very moment.

        GOOD JOB getting back on the road to success, by the way.

        The combination of getting some good education (by way of my Advanced Series), and, VERY IMPORTANTLY, your group of guy friends who you went out with, was a good thing.

        I’m proud of you for believing in yourself enough to DO SOMETHING, and not just throwing in the towel, and sitting in your desperation alone… doing nothing.

        As you well know, I highly recommend spending time watching guys who know what’s up as they interact with women… which you’ve done.

        One thing you mentioned REALLY caught my eye, though…

        You mentioned that a woman you had spent some time with, and even CUDDLED with, wound up liking one of your friends.

        This is usually a tough thing for most guys to handle.

        But you REALLY did the right thing.

        You didn’t take it PERSONALLY.

        In fact, you REALLY, REALLY did the right thing when you TALKED to your buddy about it, and went over what happened.

        You took the perspective that it was more important to LEARN THE SKILL than it was to GET THE GIRL.

Bravo!

        (By the way, I used to have a friend who would always get upset if any guy ever talked to any of the women he had talked to. Of course, he never had any success with ANY of the women in the end. On the other hand, I have a few friends who could care less if you talk to ALL of the women they’re talking to… they just don’t get jealous. Guess what? They’re all the most successful guys I know when it comes to women and dating. Coincidence? I think not…)

        To put this whole thing differently, it’s SO important to always try to get the LESSON in a particular situation instead of the GIRL in that particular situation.

        If you don’t get the lesson, you’ll keep banging your head against the wall (or rubbing it against your palm, whichever)… but if you GET THE LESSON in a situation, it will help you for the rest of your life. Get the lesson, and don’t worry about the particular girl. It’s never worth it to take things personally in these types of situations.

On to the next topic…

        You mentioned that later in the evening you went to a pub, and got into a conversation with a girl…

        You only HINTED at the nature of the conversation, but from experience, I know exactly what the “vibe” was.

        You asked your friend what he ordered you, and a girl nearby teased you and said “A Zima”.

        And I’d be willing to bet you a dollar that you DIDN’T answer her by acting like a WUSSY.

Nooooooo, no.

        You knew what to do.

        You now understand something that’s KEY.

        You now “get” how to have a conversation with a woman that sparks ATTRACTION and actually CREATES “chemistry” and sexual tension.

        In the past when you were interacting with women you probably did the same thing that most of the guys on the planet do (and the same thing that I did for YEARS of my own life)… You were an EXTRA NICE GUY.

        You never said anything “edgy”, you always let the WOMAN lead the conversation, you never said anything controversial, and you always carefully listened to what she said so you kept the conversation “positive”.

        You know what I’m talking about… that friendly, sterile, no-tension, artificially sugar-coated nice-guy kind of conversation?

        The kind that every one of us guys tries to keep going when we meet a girl we like… or we take a girl out on a date, etc….

        The kind that attractive women HATE… and the kind that bores women to TEARS!

        What’s interesting to me is how INSTANTLY women respond to this kind of overly-confident, fun, energy-charged banter… and how women RUN from guys who use the “I’m such a nice guy, and I want you to like me” kind of talk.

        By the way, nice touch turning over a coaster from a bar that already had a girl’s number on it and having her write her info on the back.

        You certainly are starting to get it, my man.

        Well, I could go on and on… and there are some more great gems of wisdom in your email.

       Let’s just say, if you were closer I’d give you a strong, manly slap on the back and tell you that you’re almost not a Wussbag anymore.

        If you’re reading this right now, and you’re at that point in your life where you’ve turned an age that’s getting you down… or you’ve just broken up with a woman that you’ve been together with for a long time… or something else has you feeling like you’re never going to be able to “get your groove back” when it comes to women, then LISTEN UP.

        It does NOT have to be that way.

        I honestly believe that you can improve your success with women DRAMATICALLY if you CHOOSE to do it… and you LEARN HOW to do it.

        Stop sitting there wishing for things to change and hoping that a super-model jumps off the T.V. screen and MAKE IT HAPPEN for yourself.

        I’ve spent a lot of time now figuring out the things you need to do to increase your success with women… and I honestly believe that any man can do it, IF he TAKES ACTION.

        You heard the things that this particular guy learned from my Advanced Dating Techniques program. There are hundreds and hundreds of success stories just like this one.

        I want you to be next. Really.   IF

        IF you’re ready for an IN-DEPTH education on everything from overcoming fear and approaching women… to getting numbers and dates… and taking things to a “physical level”, then you MUST get your hands on a copy of my my eBook “Double Your Dating,” and you need to do it NOW.

        It’s my original manual for success with women and dating, and it’s the place to get started if you want to take your success with women to the next level.

        While you’re doing that, sign up for my FREE newsletter at the same time. Every week it is packed with great emails like this one and information that you can use to take your success with women to the next level.

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DatingShoes community and dating site has many fantastic differences to your normal shopping online for a partner type dating experience. Having experienced many dating sites I wanted my members to experience something very different. Many dating sites seem to be so serious and lack the fun element missing when you meet people in the flesh. I wanted to provide a dynamic dating experience that’s fun, dating shoes is designed to give you just that.

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How to Get a Girl to Like You? 3 Stunning Tips to Accelerate Your Love Life

How to get a girl to like you is easy when you know how. The first things to think about are what do women want. Putting yourself in their shoes is your goal. When you are getting a girl to want you, you are selling yourself as a great person to be with. Someone she cannot afford to miss. So understanding what she wants in a man is critical.

Take a leaf out of the top marketing companies book. They spend a lot of time understanding an audience, so they are armed to know what to say so that targeted audience will buy something they don’t know they want. This strategy works and makes them millions.

If you use this principal you will easily achieve top results with women. Your goal is to understand girls and what they want, what they look for in a man and how you can become that man.

Women do not always go for looks. Women know through experience that good looking men can be trouble and so personality can very often override a physical appearance, this is great news for men. What girls are looking for is great emotions . They want to feel great about themselves. If you can help a girl feel great about herself in your company then she will attach those feelings to you and she will want more and more of you.

For example men who make women laugh. Laughter is a great emotion that she will love. She will crave that great feeling and she will want more. But there is still more she wants, demanding aren’t they? Yes but for good reason.

She also wants security and lots of it. She wants to know she can rely on you and trust you with her emotions. She does not want to be hurt and it is top on her list when a new man enter the scene. So what else does she want?  “7 Powerful Secrets About Women They Don’t Want Men to Know”

Totally embarrassing moments whilst dating

Do you have any totally embarrassing moments whilst on a date? I’d love to hear yours so I can feel better about mine, so here goes. 

Totally embarrassing moments…

One day after a weekend of parties my date kept on about going to see a film. I was really tired and not really up for it, but after what seemed like the 300th slightly forceful comment from her I relented.

We drove to the cinema and as we walked through the huge glass doors, we were presented with a large group of people. She went one way round the group and I went the other. Half asleep, I walked around the group and when I got to the other side, I put my arm around my date and carried on walking towards the ticket kiosk.

After about 3 steps, it dawned on me that something was wrong. As I felt her shoulder it felt different, and it was leather, not wool as I was expecting. As I looked down towards her, to my horror and still half-asleep I quickly noticed had put my arm around a random girl standing waiting for her boyfriend and I was now walking her towards the ticket kiosk. She looked at me as if she was being kidnapped and her face reflected equal horror. In fact she was so shocked nothing came out of her mouth. Red faced I apologised over and over, but she just walked off, clearly not happy.

Her boyfriend saw what happened and was doubled up laughing, thank god, and my date didn’t speak to me for the rest of the evening.

Actually this is not my most embarrassing story, I’ll give you that when you’ve shared some of yours. My friends and I are always exchanging our embarrassing moments so maybe you would like to share one of yours.

Do you have any totally embarrassing  moments?

Have your say in the comments below.

How To Meet The Right Man For You - Tips On Dating For Baby Boomers Looking For Relationships

By Connie Ragen Green

Relationships between men and women are more difficult today than ever before. If you are a woman over the age of fifty, you may feel like it will be impossible to find a partner with whom to share your life. This does not have to be the case. Here are some ways to find love and a long term relationship as a baby boomer woman, no matter what your age or where you live.

• Think about your current situation and make an honest assessment. Do you have children still living at home? Do you work outside the home? Would you be willing to move from where you are currently living or relocate entirely to a new city? There are the questions you must ask yourself if you are looking for a new relationship. Decide what will work for you and your family, before you bring a new man into the picture.
• Now, make a list of your interests, hobbies, and activities. This will be the best place to begin to look for someone you will be compatible with. Attend any functions or events to meet men who are also involved with these activities. Finding a man who has similar interests is the best place to start in your search for a man you will be compatible with forever.
• When you meet a man you are interested in dating, begin by being open to asking and answering questions. When couples can have open communication from the very beginning, they will have the best change of maintaining a successful relationship for years to come.

You can find the man that is right for you if take the time and make the effort to meet the person you will be compatible with for the rest of your life.

And now I invite you to find out more about meeting the right man for you by visiting http://www.StartingANewRelationship.com and learn how to find the right man for you for a long term relationship or marriage.

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How to Communicate With Your Partner About Money

Do you argue about money in your relationship. Do you both work with money differently? Do you get frustrated with how your partner spends the cash or do you think your partner is mean with it?

Whatever your experiencing about money if you can’t agree it can cause such rifts between you.

The key is to talk about it and find a common ground as quickly as possible. Money is the #1 reason for divorce today so it pays to get this right.

Men and Women are Different
Men usually take more risks and don’t save for emergencies. Women need security and are more likely to save. Whatever your spending habits if you are spending more than you are earning, or you are wasting your cash then there is something wrong and you need to get to the answer together.

Make sure that you both control the money, not just one of you. I expect one of you is better with figures but that does not mean the other should be left out. Work on the budget together!

Every one hates the idea of a budget, but without it you will spiral into debt and this can put massive pressure on both of you.If your partner will not agree that you need to be careful then explain the cost to the relationship.

Work out some goals together and make money exciting for both of you. It could be a great holiday, setting up a business, getting that car or house. Whatever you dream working on it together will bring your relationship closer.

If you are in debt then don’t bury your head in the sand, get advice fast, there are many ways to deal with finances that you are probably not aware of.

Make a new relationship with your partner and with money and watch how fast this changes your relationship.

If you don’t talk about money it will control you and your relationship, start making plans today.

Make a comment tell us your money related problem.

Relationship Advice - The Lies Men Tell Women in Relationships

By Jeff Herring

Recently on my weekly Relationship Radio Show on in Atlanta, I had the privilege of interviewing relationship coach Bj Moorer. Bj has a bit of a different view of the relationship world.

Bj’s interesting take on relationships is best summed up by the title of her brand new ebook “Love, Lies, Men and Women: The Lies We Tell and the Damage They Do”

In the series she is creating, Bj looks at the lies men tell women, the lies women tell men, and the lies couples tell each other about their relationship. While Bj covers all the different types of lies, you must start somewhere, and Bj begins in Volume 1 of her series with the lies men tell women.

That was the topic of my recent interview with her, and now we’ll take a look at the top 5 lies men tell women.

Lie 1 - “I’ll call you tomorrow” - Men say this so often, and get away with it, because women want to believe it. Bj’s advice is to not wait by the phone for the call and go live your life. If the call does not come in the first few days, it is not coming. Move on.

Lie 2 - “I love you”- Too bad this is a common lie that reduces the value of some precious words. Bj’ warning is that when it is said too soon in a relationship it is often an attempt at controlling the other person.

Lie 3 - “I’m not married” - The problem is most men say this and most adult men are married so you do the math. If you have a gut feeling that you are being lied to about this, ask for his home phone number and see how he responds.

Lie 4 - “No one understands me like you do” - This one can be designed to get you to feel sorry for him. You know for certain that this is just massive manipulation when it is closely followed by a large request such as borrowing money or asking to move in with you.

Lie 5 - “I’m not seeing anyone else” - Well, maybe. Pay attention to when and how this information is offered in a relationship. Just like some of the other lies, offering this information too soon or when it is not requested is a huge warning sign that someone is trying to pull the wool over your eyes.

One powerful piece of advice offered by coach Bj is to trust your gut instinct. If something is not making sense or adding up, pursue it. Don’t try to talk yourself out of it or excuse your intuition away. Pay attention.

And now I would like to offer you free access to Bj’s Relationship Start Up Guide at http://www.RelationshipAdviceHeadQuarters.com

You can also catch my weekly Relationship Radio Show each Thursday at 5 pm Eastern on http://www.RadioSandySprings.com in Atlanta.

From Jeff Herring - Host of the Relationship Radio Show in Atlanta and SecretsofGreatRelationships.com

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