Being Single and Loving It - Part 1

Being single and loving it is a wonderful place to be, because it gives you the chance to have a relationship with you.

“Being single and loving it” is what I hear from people just out of relationships. But afer a while these people start to feel torn because the pain of their relationship split has now subsided and now they are starting to miss someone being there. So being single can also be a lonely place where you start to doubt yourself in amongst the  freedom you also love.

You’ll have a mix of emotions from; I am really happy being single and loving it, I have no-one to answer to, I can do what I want when I want, and then when you look around you start to see is happy couples everywhere. You then start worry about not finding someone to have a relationship with. Now you worry about becoming lonely as you see the years stretch before you.

It does not matter how attractive a person is, or how much attention they get from the opposite sex. The task of finding a long term relationship can be daunting. We all look at beautiful people and think they will have no problem meeting someone. This may be true, but who wants to meet and be with just anyone, most know that it’s better being single than be with a partner that does not make them happy?  Being attractive does not equaly being happy in relationships. In fact attractive people have more of a problem, they attract more people they don’t want, and lots that could be ok and in this mass of people there could be one or two who could be just right. It’s like a needle in a hay stack.

Then the doubt sets in, you’re having a great time being single why wouldn’t you, you have freedom and the thought of swapping that freedom for potentially night after night watching videos whilst your friends are travelling and meeting new people, creating adventures and new opportunities. But still in the back of your mind there is a voice telling you to find that special partner.

Being single and loving it

So now you find yourself going out more and even though your telling yourself “I love being single and I’m not going out to find a someone”. Now you’ve been going out for a while and even though you know you don’t want to meet someone, it would be nice to have the choice to say no! You are meeting people but they are either idiots or just not what you would want. Now you start to question what is wrong with you!

You roll in after yet another night out, you head for the fridge and your diet goes out the window and you then ponder your life, am I too fat, ugly, am I intimidating, what’s wrong with me? Your statement “Being single and loving it” starts to feel less appealing You fall asleep feeling depressed! You then wake the following day, you shake the feeling of being depressed and convince yourself that being single is the best place for you and so the cycle starts and you find yourself repeating these thoughts. If this is you then something needs to change.

The key to finding someone special

This cycle will create a desperate persona, and without knowing this gives off an unattractive vibe that others will pick up on or abuse. The best way to find a special relationship is to be happy and create energy and excitement for your own life right now! Start to create the life you want and do not make your happiness conditional on meeting that special partner.

Accept that meeting someone who is right for you is what you want but for the moment being single and loving it is where you are and it is for good reason. Any person you consider for a relationship must be an added value to your already fabulous life, or the one your now going to create. Don’t expect this special person to make your life brilliant because you can create insecurities in you later in the relationship, it will make you vulnerable and dependant. This change of mindset will create a more attractive you to the opposite sex, whether your male or female. When you start to create the life you want, you will find that you’ll start to meet others’ that are interested in the same things you are into and now you will have more in common with your potential dates than you ever would have had down at the local bar. So the goal is to feel confident and happy about ‘you’ first.

The answers to this are in the next article. It will explain how to get that great feeling of just being you. What you will find is “being single and loving” it is your key to success and ironically will help you find that special person.

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Recommended reading

• Dating Without Drama

Recommended reading for her

• “How to Be Irresistible to Men…”
• “Meet & Keep the Right Man”

Recommended reading for him

• “Be the Guy Who Gets the girl”
• “How to be irresistible to women”

Recommended reading for Couples

• “100 Great Sex Games for Couples“