He’s just that not into you! Astonishing Secrets every girl should know
September 14, 2008
He’s just that not into you! Astonishing and powerfully intuitive secrets revealed. Understanding men and how they think about love, relationships and sex.
This fantastic best selling book “Dating Without Drama” is a must,
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Dating Without Drama
Author Paige Parker
WARNING: You May Be SABOTAGING
Your Own Love Life …Without Even Knowing It!
He’s just that not into you or is he?
“The key to a successful love life isn’t being lucky enough to find the ‘perfect’ man. The answer to having the fulfilling relationship you’ve always wanted is actually within you. Trust me…this is good news! It means that you actually have a lot more control over the outcome of your dating life than you may have realized. Instead of trusting your fate to your love horoscope or wishing on a star, you can harness your own intelligence, strength and confidence and utilize those attributes to get the love you deserve.”
You know that girl who ALWAYS has the best luck with guys?
You know… The man magnet.
Even though she’s not necessarily the prettiest woman in the room, she’s the one who guys line up to talk to at parties. Men flock to her, buy her drinks, and ask her out on dates to nice restaurants where they insist on picking up the check.
It’s a rare occurrence for her to go without a date on a Saturday night but, when it happens, she’s certainly not stressing out or staring at her cell phone, willing it to ring.
When she gets into a relationship it is healthy and well-balanced. And if it’s not, well, she promptly breaks it off and moves on to a new – more worthy – man.
She’s never spent a night with her face in a tub of ice cream and a box of tissues on her lap, wondering why she can’t find a boyfriend. She always seems centered, confident, happy and fulfilled.
She Dates Without Drama.
The secret to that girl’s dating success isn’t LUCK - it’s strategy, and you can have it too.
This girl has the secret to understanding men and understanding how men think and now you can have it too.
Girls, I cannot recommend this book enough. If you follow these steps you will change the experience of dating so much that you will wonder what the fuss was all about, because now it’s you totally in control, just what you want. Click here He’s just that not into you!
How To Attract Women - Your Fast Track to Success
July 2, 2008
Fast track to the “Attraction Formula” click here
Unless you’re a particularly good-looking, stylish, funny or charming kada guy, you’re not going to compete with the other guys. The typical “meat-market” is really a bad place to meet a female because it’s too competitive. You’ll have to impress the female far more than other guys do. If you’re a natural an alpha-male, then go for it.
How To Attract Women - Look for a non-competitive environment
For the average guy, a non-competitive environment is your best bet for attracting women. Time of day is probably the best indicator of a woman’s receptiveness. Approaching her before noon is possible, but it doesn’t work that well . A working woman has a certain “getting things done” mentality in the morning. This makes her unreceptive as she’s totally focused on accomplishing her daily tasks. Approaching a woman on the street too late at night can also be weird, because she’s going to be on her guide. If it’s dark, don’t approach her. The best hours are maybe two in the afternoon till twilight, it can be any time between five and eight-thirty. Of course, the night restriction doesn’t apply if you’re saying hi in a well-lit venue like a café or grocery store. Still, that golden afternoon/dusk window seems to work best.
Time of day is also important when you send texts. If you’re planning on meeting her that evening, send the text late afternoon or near rush hour. That way, mentally she’s already in “evening mode” and she’s think about her night. If she’s open, maybe she’s desperate for something to do and will more likely agree to your plans. If she’s already booked up, then she’ll probably suggest another night. Avoid texting early in the day or morning because a) it makes you look too desperate and b) you become the back-up plan for the night as she considers “better” plans with which to displace you.
Lastly, time of day figures into your first date with her. Keep in mind that if you want to sleep with a woman that night, a lot of time with her may not work for you. Women will say that the more time together is much better because they can “get to know you.” They claim to become more comfortable with you, etc. Well, that’s true, only if they really do like you. And if women find you irresistible and want to spend lots of their time with you, stop reading this article. It isn’t for you. The point is that of 10 guys whom a woman agrees to date, only one will ultimately meet her high standards (whatever those are) and the other 9 will be discarded. This is the hard truth of the dating world.
So, how does this relate to “The time of Day”? Well, scheduling the first drink or meeting late at night compresses the time spent on the date. If you meet at 9 or 10, she still gets her night with you, but you both are time-constrained. She’ll have to collapse her usual judgements and may have to hook up with you while she’s still deciding whether she likes you or not. She’ll probably just go with it, women being the indecisive beasts they are.
You can learn how to attract women by downloading my book.
To The Good Life,
Paul Janka
Stages of a Healthy Relationship - Avoid starting unhealthy relationships
March 28, 2008
The first stages of a healthy relationship are critical so you don’t get hurt. Steve Hedger relationship coach reveals how to avoid unhealthy starts to your relationships.
Letting your emotions run away with you on a dates and when starting a relationship is extremely common. Meeting new people is exciting and especially if you find someone that just blows your socks off. That experience does not happen very often, so it‘s easy to get carried away. They could be just what you are looking for. Your hormones are racing and you can’t help yourself. Your mind starts to create your future together, you see dates, holidays, your house in the country together. You have created this perfect relationship all on your own, and in your own mind.
Being in love with someone is a wonderful feeling and commiting yourself 100% to them is brilliant, or is it? Starting a relationship takes two people, so no amount of enthusiasm on your part is going to make this perfect without the others agreement and effort.
Balance is key in these early stages of a healthy relationship.
Throwing yourself into a relationship in your mind only can be a very scary place to be. Especially if you don’t get the signals back that this is going where you planned it to go, this will create either, an insecurity in you, or you will just totally back off, which is the reverse of what you want. Insecurities will change how you behave and now your seen as needy. Insecurity is off putting and will have the opposite affect to what you really want.
You have probably experienced when starting a relationship what it’s like to have someone really into you and your not there yet, your unsure about them but the more they push you, the further you retreat. The further you go away the harder they chase, and now they are an irritation so you end it. In your mind the person is now a hassle, a problem. None of us enjoy problems so we remove them!
Stages of a healthy relationship
Creation of balance to avoid pain - We all know that to lead a successful life it’s all about balance, and starting a relationship is no different. When we first meet someone we can have feelings of falling in love. For the most, what you have fallen in love with, is what you know so far, and you don’t know everything by a long shot but you feel you do! This is the one and I’m going for it! The creation of a mirrored balance is what will now protect you from yourself.
If you feel or see that you date is putting in 20% of their time or emotion, then make sure you do no more than that. If your both equally interested then you will find that the 20% quickly escalates to 40% and then 70% and your both putting in equal effort, this is reality and that’s exciting. Remember you can’t build a relationship on your own and if you do, you will get hurt. If you feel that your putting in more effort then stop and put in less than they are.
If they are genuinely interested they will increase their effort as they have noticed you backing off and they don’t want to lose you. When this happens you can now mirror them again. If they’re still putting in no effort then it’s time to re-consider if it’s worth your time. As this could be hard work, you will eventually feel taken for granted, which will be emotionally destructive for you, and you will walk away at some point.
The advice is to give no more than 70% of yourself in the first 3 months. Hold back 30% until they have proved they are worth your effort. Only give 100% once the commitment has reached your goal - could be marriage or a serious commitment!
Emotions are difficult to control, but the feeling of being crushed because you read it wrong, is far worse.
Create the stages of a healthy relationship today and look after you.
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First Date Chat - Dating Conversation Topics to get a Second Date.
March 27, 2008
First date conversation that will create a second date is your goal. We all dread the moment on a first date when you both dry up, without warning it goes silent for what seems forever, and now your minds gone blank!
One of the biggest fears when on a first date is what are we going to talk about? Imagine the conversation has dried up on a date, you both sit there staring at each other, one of you panics and fills the air with a daft comment or continuous chat about nothing, and now both of you just want to get the hell out of there!
On a first date dating conversation topics are less important than how you conduct yourself. If you combine a confident presence through body language with great conversation, then you have the making of a great person to date because you will help your date to feel comfortable in your company. Get them comfortable first and then help them to like you by showing interest in them. OK so this sound great but but what will be a great conversation for this person I don’t know?
First date questions
On a date we just want to come across as interesting, funny or have some interesting points to make. Basically we just want to liked and not just for our looks. Intelligence is an attractive quality, and we know it! The bottom line is, we just want to feel good about ourselves on the date.
First date questions to avoid.
As a rule of thumb for a first date, don’t cover religion or politics as this kind of topic usually generate a heated debate, which if not handled with the utmost care will result in disagreement or worse an argument. What you are after is a date full of agreements, anything that will create a positive vibe without controversy.
Never talk about past relationships unless asked, and if asked keep it short and be honest without being critical. To many your relationship history will be important, it might come up so be prepared.
Men have a tendency to think that women will be interested in what he has got, such as a big house or a flash car and big salary. To a man this could mean he is generating security for her. Most women will resent the fact that he thinks she needs supporting, and she will feel he’s just showing off. A woman knows that a rich man does not equal a great partner. The thought of money on tap is inviting, but will have the opposite affect if presented overtly early on. The first date questions a woman is looking for relates to her emotions such as“will this man look after all her emotional needs” this is something a man can’t buy, as it takes effort. She wants to be a man focus.
A relationship is all about emotions. If you know that “someone falls in love with you because of how they feel about themselves when they are with you” then this will help to guide you with what to say. It’s easy, make the person feel looked after and special, show an interest in them and you have got it made!
First date questions & dating conversation topics
People like people that are interested in them. This creates a good feeling. Gather as much information about your date before you meet. Think of the type of questions you could ask based on the information you have so far. Whatever they are interested in will be a great topic. Remember, if you ask questions that will result in a “yes” or a “no” then you will kill the conversation dead so avoid this.
Ask open-ended questions such as “what’s your experience of online dating?” is better than “do you enjoy online dating?” which could just result in a “yes or no”. This will generate a flowing conversation that will sprout other topics, this feels good as you both share experiences.
People love people with a great sense of humour, it’s one of the most attractive qualities you can bring to a first date. If you make your date laugh (I don’t mean tell jokes) the chances of a second date are very high, because laughing makes people feel great about themselves.
Dating conversation topics That will give you more information and could even help you with future surprises.
- Travel and places they’ve been to and any that they’ve always wanted to go to.
- Weedend activities Talk about interests such as what the weekends usually have instore.
- Inspiration what have you always wanted to do but keep putting off, career, hobbies, anything.
- Their friends. Their friends will be very important, so critical to them.
- Family understand their family structure and their up bringing will give you alot of information. Be careful with this, if he or she changes the topic fast then leave it for the moment and come back to it on later dates.
- Drinks will come up in bars so you could start with this. Getting to know their favorite drinks is important to many.
Show plenty of interest in the other person, compliment them on their knowledge or achievements. If your impressed, then tell the person how much respect you have for them. This is better than continuously telling a woman how beautiful she is.
The advice is for a first date is, help your date to feel great about themselves, they will attach those feelings of happiness to you, and they will want more of you. It’s simple!
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Is he the one? Great Expectations for a First Date
March 27, 2008
Is he the one? Great expectations for dating could stop you being yourself and could spoil your chances of finding and keeping the one.
Your about to go on your first date and your mind is awash with emotions; excitement, nervousness, fears and expectations, followed by so many questions.
“What is he or she going to be like?”
“Is this the relationship I’ve been looking for”
“Will we get on?”
“What will we talk about?”
“What if I know he or she is wrong for me?”
Potentially the most destructive question for you; Is he the one?
Great expectations dating
Nine times out of ten a date will not meet your expectations, and all the emotion before the date will create disappointment for youwhen you find he’s not the one. After a few dates the whole process starts to becomes a chore rather than an adventure! So looking at your dating differently will change your experience. This is important because if your serious about finding the one, going on many dates could be what has to happen before you find the right person for you.
Expectations such as “is he the one”will create a false future of what your date could mean to your life, this will make you feel overwelming emotions that will change you and your behaviour on your date, because the pressure is now on you to perform.
STEP AWAY FROM EXPECTATION!
The best advice we can give you is to change your expectations!
If you go on a date with huge expectations such as “this could be the one, the relationship I’ve always wanted!” You will be let down. If they are “the one” great, but if their not you will be left feeling disappointed. Who likes feeling disappointed? It’s not a great emotion to have, so why set yourself up to feel it?
This is your new expectation for the date!
“No matter what happens on this date,
I will have a great time!”
If they turn out to not be what you expected, then you can put it down to experience and you might have learnt something new.
Setting this expectation is better, it will change how you behave because the risk to your emotions has now been removed. Your mind and body will now relax. You will now create a state in you that will give you the power to “Just be you!” That’s better for both you and your date!
Relax, have fun and now focus on the date! If you take this attitude to dating then if you do meet ‘the one’, then the chances of messing it up through nerves is greatly reduced.
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