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How Can i Get my Wife to Have Sex with Me More

April 15, 2008

How can i get my wife to have sex with me more is a question I get from alot of men, so I thought I’d put some thoughts on here? Women also want more sex but they don’t feel their lives help. Stress, work, housekeeping, and looking after the kids don’t really get them in the right mood, so the chances of them feeling like it are greatly diminished.

Sex is so important to our relationships. Most relationships become distant when sex becomes less and many end. So if you don’t have sex prepare for problems. For men sex is the way that they can show their partner how much they love them. This is what men need to be able to respond to a woman emotionally (therefore it’s critical for a man) and a woman needs emotion to be able to respond to a man sexually.

When they are both in tune i.e. having fun and enjoying each other and their relationship, sex is usually great, but then problems or an argument strikes. Both are usually hell bent on being right until one backs down and says sorry or they both might just brush it under the carpet. If the man says he is sorry he will immediately want to show his partner his love for her through sex. A woman’s response is likely to be “you have got to be kidding me… you think that I’m in the mood for sex after that display from you!” So the goal is to create the right emotions and the chance of sex increasing is very high.

So how can i get my wife to have sex with me more?

One of the ways I help couples to engage with each other is to create a scenario that they can both feel good about and share. When they first met is usually a great example. I get couples to talk about their first date! When this happens, I watch the spark re-enter two people that entered the room looking depressed about life. I watch them get excited and laugh about that day. The mood in the room changes.  It is this change of mood that you are after. This is one tip to try today.

This is one tip to try today. An NLP technique that will work for your relationship.

Step one. Start to think about your first date now! Take yourself back to that day. Remember how you felt before your date and then play the date just like a movie in your mind. Recount all the things that happened, what was said, the place you went to and how you tried to work out if your date liked you.

Step two. As soon as possible text or phone your partner and tell them you have been thinking about the first day you both met. This will immediately focus your partner on that day, and images and feelings will pop into there head throughout the day.

Step three. When you get home and you get a moment together, start to talk about that day. Make sure you keep the focus of the conversation on the positives of that day and keep the conversation away from the negative differences between your relationship back then and today if he or she brings them up!

Step four. Re-create that first date. Take your partner back to the same place (if possible) and do it as a surprise! Try to remember exactly what was said and reminisce together. The chance of you both feeling fantastic are very high and you will notice a shift in your relationship.  

The chances of sex are now much higher, but this was not the real goal. The real goal is to get your relationship re-ignited. It works! Go and try it today.

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