Relationship Rescue - Stop Your Relationship Break Up Today!
April 11, 2008
Relationship rescue for those wanting to stop your relationship break up or for those wanting a relationship back.
Breaking up is an awful thing to go through, most of us don‘t go into a relationship with a view to it breaking up. Spliting up is a emotional trauma for both of you. You had such high hopes and it started so well. Over time, you have just felt that it was not going the way you wanted it to. You feel so bad that you know that something has to change, so you decide that splitting up is the only answer. I expect like me you have been on both sides of that particular fence.
Many breaks up should not happen. Many people either just get bored or feel that the grass is greener elsewhere. My experience has shown that the major reason people break up is through a lack of understanding of what the intentions of their partners are. Consistent communication breakdown! They make assumptions about their partners actions and thoughts. Then they feel bad about their thoughts that they created all on their own. Next they make their partner’ responsible for those thoughts and a lack of respect creeps in and over time the relationship starts to spiral out of control. A relationship rescue is now needed fast.
Relationship rescue, You can stop your relationship break up.
Assumptions are the killers in any relationship. The solution is to talk and understand the positive intentions behind the actions your partner made. 9 times out of 10, you will discover that what you thought was a bad behaviour turns out to be a good one! It is the little things that grow out of control. Don’t assume anything find out before it too late.
For example, Matt feels he is being nagged to fix the gate! Sarah wants the gate fixed but does not explain why! Matt says he will do it, but the days pass and the gate is still not fixed. Sarah keeps on about the gate and now Matt’s is getting fed up with the constant nagging and goes out more to get away from her. She is now furious about the gate and now he is never around. “It’s such a simple thing. Why won’t he do this little thing for me?” A lack of respect is setting in on both sides if it‘s not corrected this can quickly make life miserable. If life stays miserable then one party could take drastic action, and many do!
It is the small things that start relationship problems, that then start to fester and turn into big ones. Sarah feels that she can’t “trust” Matt to respect her wishes and now he’s angry and out doing god knows what… what’s he really upto? Trust is the corner stone of any relationship! Lose that and your in big trouble!
What Matt didn’t realise is Sarah wanted the gate fixed because her nieces age 4 and 7 were coming to stay. For them to be safe whilst playing in the garden the gate had to be fixed. That was her positive intention; security for the children. His positive intention was to prioritise household chores in amongst his work and his leisure time activities. He felt she just wanted to control him and stop him doing what he felt was important. If Matt new the reason he would have acted quicker as he is very fond of the children and also values their security. This type of communication break down is very common and if not careful can lead to break-ups.
So if you have just experienced a break-up then there is a good chance it should not have happened. The worst place to be is on the receiving end. You experience a form of madness that creates a barrage of texts and drunken phone calls late at night when you have been out drinking to forget what has happened. You contact all the friends and family to find out what has happened and why? Then you go frantic because now you have just realised that there might be someone else! Now you are in a frenzy of uncontrollable emotion.
You have a goal and that is to get your ex back! All those actions will push them further away but what actions will get them back? If you are serious about getting your ex back and you know deep down you have a future together and he or she has the wrong end of the stick then take action now before it is too late.
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